AFC's, AMOGs, Chick Crack, LSE, LMR, Peacocking. Welcome to the world of the seduction community. A microcosm of community who have their own abbreviations and terminology, which are, for the most part, undecipherable to the general populace. This of course is not unusual. Internet Marketers have terms such as MLM, Affiliates, Click Flipping, Downlines, Uplines, Two-tier and the list goes on.
If there were a formula for Internet Marketing success then would you like to know it? Well that's a subject of a different article. But, in the realm of dating there are a number of multipliers that can improve your dating success exponentially.
There is a fascinating book entitled The Game by New York Time author Neil Strauss that looks at the underbelly of the seduction community where he lived and learns from one of the most famous seduction artists in the World - Mystery. Neil, who describes himself as far from attractive, close to bald with small and beady eyes, and a malnourished look. His plan was never to change his personality but over the course of two years his personality completely changed and his alter-ego Style became more popular than he had ever been; especially with women.
Some believe that our brains still have remnants of ways of acting from caveman days when communities were typically around 50 people. If this were true then if you were to go up to a cave girl and be rejected then that could mean you being rejected by the whole tribe and your survival and replication value would be fairly low. Whether that is the case or not most of us know how scary going up to somebody you are attracted to can be - palms sweating, nervous gestures (e.g. hand wringing).
Many salesmen will have a proven script that they use to try and get a prospect to buy. Telesales teams may have many people all using the same or very similar script. When you are going to be in a situation where you are going to be naturally nervous - doesn't it make sense to have an idea of something to say? For many the most they have thought about this is "Hi, How are you?" or "Can I buy you a drink?” Certainly that is better than standing next to the woman and drooling or perhaps muttering incomprehensibly but most likely it is not going to send her heart in a flutter of emotional excitement.
Coming back to the analogy of the salesman - they have a number of closes with strange names like the boomerang close, the Columbo Close (just one more thing.). In dating you can have a number of openers to add to your arsenal. One of the terms mentioned at the start of the article was "Chick Crack" and this refers to routines involving tests, fortune-telling, psychological games, and the like. The purpose of having such a routine is to differentiate yourself from the majority of men - to pique their interest and to demonstrate higher value. Also it means you have at least one default thing to say when approaching somebody.
A telemarketer may use a script written by the company and in the same way many people use proven routines that have been developed "in the field" at least at first. Neil Strauss/Style innovated a number of his own routines that are still in use by people today. Ideally you will want to develop your own openers to help you build comfort with a member of the opposite sex but to build momentum and get comfortable initially you can begin with proven openers.
A very interesting and important concept to dating can be found in the name of the book mentioned earlier - "The Game". How is dating like a game? Consider you are playing a computer game on your computer. You are playing and you lose - do you quit or do you persevere and try again? You find as you persevere you get better at the game and finish the level. Sometimes you may try multiple times to complete a level - many times progressing a little further. The same analogy can be applied to dating - it's not enough to speak to one girl and then if you don't get a date to quit.
Imagine a telemarketer who called the first customer and they hung up and they don't call anybody else for the rest of the day - they'd rightly lose their job. Many doing a job such as this may call 100 people in a day and get 0 or 1 sale. As with many things - the more you practice the better you get. In the world of dating this means putting yourself out there and honing your skills in the real world.
Does anybody comment positively on your clothing or hair? When was the last time somebody did? If it has been some time or you can't remember then it may be a very good idea to address this aspect. If you can afford it then you may wish to consider a stylist. If you wish to see the difference that can be made then you may wish to search on Google Images for "Neil Strauss" and I'm sure you will be able to see a before and after picture.
A final tip to help you in your dating adventures is to clear up a common myth many of you will have heard. A helpful friend may suggest "Just Be Yourself". This should be rephrased to "Be Your Best Self!" because most people live a life that is nowhere near the potential we have of who we really are or who we want to be.
So be your best self and best of luck in your dating adventures.
Sunday 30 October 2011
How to Cure Erectile Dysfunction Without Special Pills
Despite the fact that there are seemingly dozens of various cures now available to counteract male impotence, also known as erectile dysfunction, this embarrassing condition may not require special medications or herbal treatments to cure. Depending on the cause of the problem, it is possible that modifications to a man's lifestyle may be all that is needed to solve his erectile dysfunction problem.
Of course, there may be many different factors, both physical and psychological that may be at the root of an impotence condition, but studies have shown that a large number of cases are caused by factors that may be treated quite simply. That is because three of the leading causes of erectile dysfunction are tobacco, alcohol and prescription drugs.
One of the effects that tobacco smoking has on the human body is to reduce the ability of the vascular system (blood vessels) to circulate blood throughout the body. Because male potency requires a good supply of blood to a man's sex organ, smoking may be a contributing factor of impotence. If that is the case, then quitting smoking is likely to solve the problem.
The reason why alcohol can contribute to erectile dysfunction is because prolonged drinking can lead to the lowering of a man's testosterone level. Without a sufficiently high quantity of this important male hormone in his system, a lowering of libido and sexual stamina may result. Once again, the symptoms could be alleviated by a lifestyle alteration in the form of a change in his drinking habits.
Prescription drugs may also be a factor that causes impotence, especially if a man is taking certain medications for conditions such as high blood pressure, heart conditions or depression. If a man falls into any one of those categories, a discussion with his doctor about adjusting his prescriptions may be all that is needed to solve his impotence problem.
Even if a man does not smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol excessively or take problematic prescription drugs, a poor diet, sedentary habits or other unhealthy lifestyle conditions could be triggering his impotence. For overall good health, especially for a man who is approaching middle age or older, it is important to take a good vitamin supplement on a daily basis and get at least thirty minutes of exercise at least three times per week. To do so will help combat not only erectile dysfunction but also any number of potential health risks.
It is only after all of the above factors have been ruled out that a man may find he could benefit by taking either herbal or medicinal based products to cure his erectile dysfunction.
Of course, there may be many different factors, both physical and psychological that may be at the root of an impotence condition, but studies have shown that a large number of cases are caused by factors that may be treated quite simply. That is because three of the leading causes of erectile dysfunction are tobacco, alcohol and prescription drugs.
One of the effects that tobacco smoking has on the human body is to reduce the ability of the vascular system (blood vessels) to circulate blood throughout the body. Because male potency requires a good supply of blood to a man's sex organ, smoking may be a contributing factor of impotence. If that is the case, then quitting smoking is likely to solve the problem.
The reason why alcohol can contribute to erectile dysfunction is because prolonged drinking can lead to the lowering of a man's testosterone level. Without a sufficiently high quantity of this important male hormone in his system, a lowering of libido and sexual stamina may result. Once again, the symptoms could be alleviated by a lifestyle alteration in the form of a change in his drinking habits.
Prescription drugs may also be a factor that causes impotence, especially if a man is taking certain medications for conditions such as high blood pressure, heart conditions or depression. If a man falls into any one of those categories, a discussion with his doctor about adjusting his prescriptions may be all that is needed to solve his impotence problem.
Even if a man does not smoke cigarettes, drink alcohol excessively or take problematic prescription drugs, a poor diet, sedentary habits or other unhealthy lifestyle conditions could be triggering his impotence. For overall good health, especially for a man who is approaching middle age or older, it is important to take a good vitamin supplement on a daily basis and get at least thirty minutes of exercise at least three times per week. To do so will help combat not only erectile dysfunction but also any number of potential health risks.
It is only after all of the above factors have been ruled out that a man may find he could benefit by taking either herbal or medicinal based products to cure his erectile dysfunction.
Getting A Lift From Horny Goat Weed
Horny Goat Weed was discovered (if you believe the legend) by a Chinese Goat Herder who had noticed increased sexual activity in his herd of goats after they had eaten some weeds. As a result, men all over the world now use those weeds as an aphrodisiac and as a herbal treatment for physical impotence.
Actually the Horny Goat herb is called Epimedium, although it is also known as Barrenwort, Bishops Hat and Yin Yang Huo. Like so many herbal treatments, Horny Goat Weed has been used in Chinese Medicine for centuries.
What makes this herb stand out from others used to treat impotence is that there have been clinical studies conducted in the United States on the immediate and long term effects of Horny Goat Weed as an aphrodisiac. For example, in 2000 Dr. Stephen Lamm conducted testing on 38 men aged between 25 and 66 years of age.
The men were split up into two groups - healthy males that had no history of impotence and Viagra males that were only able to have sex after taking Viagra. Participants were given either Horny Goat Weed in a mixture with a couple of other herbs, or a placebo, with the treatments being taken daily and also within two hours of sexual activity. The trial lasted for 60 days.
Results from this study show that:
1. 65% of the healthy males reported an increase in sexual performance and satisfaction.
2. 46% of the men who used viagra regularly noted increased satisfaction with sexual performance.
3. 31% of the latter also noticed an increase in the number of times they had sex.
4. Those who used viagra regularly also reported a definite increase in the length of time an erection was achieved and/or sustained.
5. There was no evidence of any side effects on any of the participants over the 60-day trial.
Other research indicates that Horny Goat Weed also increases testosterone production in older males. Needless to say, there are many reports that the herb produces feelings of well being and increases in sexual desire in male users.
It is now clear that Horny Goat Weed works by increasing the levels of nitric oxide in the body, which in turn increases the blood flow around and through the penis, resulting in an erection. There are also indications that the herb impacts on hormones and the thyroid gland.
The search for men's "Holy Grail" - a harmless, natural aid for sexual performance when in need - is making progress by rediscovering what has been common wisdom for centuries in some communities. Now, it seems, science is starting to provide the extra validity this herb requires for more general acceptance.
Studies have shown that even those males without a history of impotence perceived an improvement in their sexual performance and satisfaction while taking this herb. Some researchers have likened Horny Goat Weed to Viagra, without as many side effects. Luckily, in this instance, nature holds the patent.
Actually the Horny Goat herb is called Epimedium, although it is also known as Barrenwort, Bishops Hat and Yin Yang Huo. Like so many herbal treatments, Horny Goat Weed has been used in Chinese Medicine for centuries.
What makes this herb stand out from others used to treat impotence is that there have been clinical studies conducted in the United States on the immediate and long term effects of Horny Goat Weed as an aphrodisiac. For example, in 2000 Dr. Stephen Lamm conducted testing on 38 men aged between 25 and 66 years of age.
The men were split up into two groups - healthy males that had no history of impotence and Viagra males that were only able to have sex after taking Viagra. Participants were given either Horny Goat Weed in a mixture with a couple of other herbs, or a placebo, with the treatments being taken daily and also within two hours of sexual activity. The trial lasted for 60 days.
Results from this study show that:
1. 65% of the healthy males reported an increase in sexual performance and satisfaction.
2. 46% of the men who used viagra regularly noted increased satisfaction with sexual performance.
3. 31% of the latter also noticed an increase in the number of times they had sex.
4. Those who used viagra regularly also reported a definite increase in the length of time an erection was achieved and/or sustained.
5. There was no evidence of any side effects on any of the participants over the 60-day trial.
Other research indicates that Horny Goat Weed also increases testosterone production in older males. Needless to say, there are many reports that the herb produces feelings of well being and increases in sexual desire in male users.
It is now clear that Horny Goat Weed works by increasing the levels of nitric oxide in the body, which in turn increases the blood flow around and through the penis, resulting in an erection. There are also indications that the herb impacts on hormones and the thyroid gland.
The search for men's "Holy Grail" - a harmless, natural aid for sexual performance when in need - is making progress by rediscovering what has been common wisdom for centuries in some communities. Now, it seems, science is starting to provide the extra validity this herb requires for more general acceptance.
Studies have shown that even those males without a history of impotence perceived an improvement in their sexual performance and satisfaction while taking this herb. Some researchers have likened Horny Goat Weed to Viagra, without as many side effects. Luckily, in this instance, nature holds the patent.
5 Great Tips on How to Spice Up Your Sex Life
Have you come to a point where you are starting to wonder where all the passion from the bedroom has gone? If you are sick and tired of the same old-same old, here are 5 great tips on how to spice up your sex life and keep the good feelings, good times, and your partner coming back for more.
1. Pretend you've just met
The moment you notice your sex life waning, think about how other men or women might see your partner if they were just meeting him or her for the first time - this alone should motivate you to impress your partner more.
For men, this could mean getting up just a few minutes earlier than usual to join her or make time for later to play in the tub and make her feel special. For women, this could mean buying new lingerie, playing up your assets, not letting your appearance slide, and not allowing yourself to get caught dead in granny panties. Small, simple changes like these could help you rediscover each other's sexiness and spice up your sex life.
2. Harness the power of foreplay
Foreplay is what gets you all worked up for sex and eager in anticipation for what's to come next. It definitely doesn't have to be limited to the last 10 minutes before you dive into doing the deed.
In the morning when you wake up and catch yourself in the mood, go ahead with the kisses and caresses, but don't cave in. Instead, spend the rest of half the day stealing flirtatious, seductive glances, strokes, and kisses.
As you leave for work, start the day with a suggestive email saying how hot your partner looked as he or she left, send an MMS with a sexy pose of you on it saying you can't wait to see him later once you get back, or text her later in the afternoon to let her know what you plan to do to her when you get home, or slip him a sexy note telling him that you're not wearing any underwear.
3. Indulge in quickies
In all of life's busyness, you won't always have time for marathon, gourmet sex. But this definitely doesn't mean that you should skip it altogether. A quickie just before heading off to work or during your lunch hour can leave you both feeling refreshed and satisfied.
4. Go outside of the bedroom
There is always something exciting and exhilarating about having sex out of the bedroom. You don't really have to go outside of your home, spend money, or fear getting caught in public. There are lots of potential passion places within your home just waiting to be tapped to give your sex life the spice it needs. For starters, three great locations would be: the kitchen sink, counter, or table, the sofa, or the living room or bedroom floor.
5. When unsure, go back to the basics
A certain level of comfort and pleasure still comes along with your run of the mill, conventional, married sex. If you find that this works for both of you, there is definitely no shame in doing so.
When it feels like you are already trying too hard and yet you still feel stuck, go back to the basics - the foreplay and positions that always did the trick for you both. There is no need to fix something that isn't broken, after all.
When it all boils down to it, it really is just a matter of being open-minded and constructively open to one another about each other's wants and needs. It won't be long before you stumble upon just the thing you need and before you know it you will have discovered how to spice up your sex life all over again.
1. Pretend you've just met
The moment you notice your sex life waning, think about how other men or women might see your partner if they were just meeting him or her for the first time - this alone should motivate you to impress your partner more.
For men, this could mean getting up just a few minutes earlier than usual to join her or make time for later to play in the tub and make her feel special. For women, this could mean buying new lingerie, playing up your assets, not letting your appearance slide, and not allowing yourself to get caught dead in granny panties. Small, simple changes like these could help you rediscover each other's sexiness and spice up your sex life.
2. Harness the power of foreplay
Foreplay is what gets you all worked up for sex and eager in anticipation for what's to come next. It definitely doesn't have to be limited to the last 10 minutes before you dive into doing the deed.
In the morning when you wake up and catch yourself in the mood, go ahead with the kisses and caresses, but don't cave in. Instead, spend the rest of half the day stealing flirtatious, seductive glances, strokes, and kisses.
As you leave for work, start the day with a suggestive email saying how hot your partner looked as he or she left, send an MMS with a sexy pose of you on it saying you can't wait to see him later once you get back, or text her later in the afternoon to let her know what you plan to do to her when you get home, or slip him a sexy note telling him that you're not wearing any underwear.
3. Indulge in quickies
In all of life's busyness, you won't always have time for marathon, gourmet sex. But this definitely doesn't mean that you should skip it altogether. A quickie just before heading off to work or during your lunch hour can leave you both feeling refreshed and satisfied.
4. Go outside of the bedroom
There is always something exciting and exhilarating about having sex out of the bedroom. You don't really have to go outside of your home, spend money, or fear getting caught in public. There are lots of potential passion places within your home just waiting to be tapped to give your sex life the spice it needs. For starters, three great locations would be: the kitchen sink, counter, or table, the sofa, or the living room or bedroom floor.
5. When unsure, go back to the basics
A certain level of comfort and pleasure still comes along with your run of the mill, conventional, married sex. If you find that this works for both of you, there is definitely no shame in doing so.
When it feels like you are already trying too hard and yet you still feel stuck, go back to the basics - the foreplay and positions that always did the trick for you both. There is no need to fix something that isn't broken, after all.
When it all boils down to it, it really is just a matter of being open-minded and constructively open to one another about each other's wants and needs. It won't be long before you stumble upon just the thing you need and before you know it you will have discovered how to spice up your sex life all over again.
Natural Aphrodisiacs -Yesterday and Today
Originally, aphrodisiacs were given their unique name and purpose thanks to the Greek Goddess Aphrodite. Since some individuals are not as innately alluring as this goddess of love and sexuality, some people would use a natural aphrodisiac with minimal health risk. They would also use a combination of aphrodisiacs or a herbal aphrodisiac. The purpose of an aphrodisiac is to heighten the sex drive to attain more pleasure and enjoyment.
A natural aphrodisiac is an aid that emits a 'feel so good' chemical. Believe it or not, you probably have an aphrodisiac or two in your kitchen but never thought of those kitchen spices in that manner before. Some examples of aphrodisiacs are chocolate, licorice, tomatoes, avocados, garlic, bananas, coconut, figs, pine nuts, chili peppers, walnuts, and oysters, to name a few. Each of these aphrodisiacs hold special properties that promote revving up the libido.
Chocolate contains the natural chemical Phenyl ethylamine (PEA) which stimulates the senses. Black licorice promotes strength, stamina, and endurance. Tomatoes are known to calm nerves, making intimacy more enjoyable. The avocado contains high amounts of the intimacy jolter, vitamin E. Garlic is a natural energy which helps peak performance. Bananas contain the sex hormone supporters of vitamin B and potassium. The coconut is a natural source of calcium, potassium, and magnesium, which are vitamins and minerals that increase metabolism. Figs are jam packed with B vitamins, vitamin C, vitamin E, iron, calcium, and potassium, which all help to increase the sex drive. Pine nuts are full of zinc. Chilli peppers not only help you feel the heat within, they also speed up your heart rate. The walnut contains healthy fats that help give sex hormones a lift. The oyster contains a high level of the sperm producing agent zinc, which increases the libido.
Now that natural aphrodisiacs have been described, it is time to delve into the herbal aphrodisiacs. Although not scientifically proven, a herbal aphrodisiac is believed to increase the libido and fertility. Their role is to improve circulation by increasing the blood flow to the genitals. Forms of herbal aphrodisiacs include scents and absolute herbs themselves.
For example, frankincense and myrrh are herbal scents that can be found in candles and incense. These scents set the tone and provide a sensuous light to enhance the mood.
As for the herbs, Damiana is thought to boost sex drive by acting as a mild stimulant that causes tingling in the genital area. Ginseng increases nitric oxide which is essential to having an erection. The herb Maca is one of the top sex-enhancing plants available. Muira puama is known highly to increase libido. Yohimbe is available but it is a prescription only herb. ArginMax is a multivitamin for women that also contains Ginseng, Damiana, Gingko, and L-arginine. These are components that are essential for sexual responsiveness.
As you can see there are many natural and herbal aphrodisiacs that can heighten one's pleasure and make love more exciting. Some of these have been used for years and some you already have at home. Just as when using any herbal supplement, please be aware of any side effects that an aphrodisiac may have and check with your doctor for advice of how herbal aphrodisiacs could affect your health.
A natural aphrodisiac is an aid that emits a 'feel so good' chemical. Believe it or not, you probably have an aphrodisiac or two in your kitchen but never thought of those kitchen spices in that manner before. Some examples of aphrodisiacs are chocolate, licorice, tomatoes, avocados, garlic, bananas, coconut, figs, pine nuts, chili peppers, walnuts, and oysters, to name a few. Each of these aphrodisiacs hold special properties that promote revving up the libido.
Chocolate contains the natural chemical Phenyl ethylamine (PEA) which stimulates the senses. Black licorice promotes strength, stamina, and endurance. Tomatoes are known to calm nerves, making intimacy more enjoyable. The avocado contains high amounts of the intimacy jolter, vitamin E. Garlic is a natural energy which helps peak performance. Bananas contain the sex hormone supporters of vitamin B and potassium. The coconut is a natural source of calcium, potassium, and magnesium, which are vitamins and minerals that increase metabolism. Figs are jam packed with B vitamins, vitamin C, vitamin E, iron, calcium, and potassium, which all help to increase the sex drive. Pine nuts are full of zinc. Chilli peppers not only help you feel the heat within, they also speed up your heart rate. The walnut contains healthy fats that help give sex hormones a lift. The oyster contains a high level of the sperm producing agent zinc, which increases the libido.
Now that natural aphrodisiacs have been described, it is time to delve into the herbal aphrodisiacs. Although not scientifically proven, a herbal aphrodisiac is believed to increase the libido and fertility. Their role is to improve circulation by increasing the blood flow to the genitals. Forms of herbal aphrodisiacs include scents and absolute herbs themselves.
For example, frankincense and myrrh are herbal scents that can be found in candles and incense. These scents set the tone and provide a sensuous light to enhance the mood.
As for the herbs, Damiana is thought to boost sex drive by acting as a mild stimulant that causes tingling in the genital area. Ginseng increases nitric oxide which is essential to having an erection. The herb Maca is one of the top sex-enhancing plants available. Muira puama is known highly to increase libido. Yohimbe is available but it is a prescription only herb. ArginMax is a multivitamin for women that also contains Ginseng, Damiana, Gingko, and L-arginine. These are components that are essential for sexual responsiveness.
As you can see there are many natural and herbal aphrodisiacs that can heighten one's pleasure and make love more exciting. Some of these have been used for years and some you already have at home. Just as when using any herbal supplement, please be aware of any side effects that an aphrodisiac may have and check with your doctor for advice of how herbal aphrodisiacs could affect your health.
Importance of Sex Education in lifelong relationships
Sex education is important. So many times people are ignorant of even the most basic of information. The phrase "how come no one told me that?" will come up time and time again. This could be after a sex educator has held up an anatomical drawing of the female genitalia, talked about the importance of breathing and relaxation during sex, shown a workshop group a vibrator for the first time and told them exactly what to do with it!!
Properly, professionally constructed sex education workshops are not mucky or pornographic and the students will come from all walks of life. Sitting next to each other may be sassy 30-somethings earning good money in top jobs, school dinner ladies in their 40's looking for some spice in their tired relationships, young first time mothers who want sex but are too tired to even think about it, singles newly on the dating scene or empty nesters in their 50's whose kids have just left to go to University who have turned round to look at their partner and said "who are you?" All these people have in common is a hunger to change the sex and relationships in their lives. Someone once said knowledge is power - knowledge is also confidence.
The confidence to get what we want out of our relationships, to ask for and get what we want is probably the most difficult to achieve. Sure we are great at designing the new kitchen, sorting where we are going on our holidays, buying the new car, but when it comes to saying "when you leave your dirty clothes all over the floor it makes me feel like a doormat!" Where are we?
Well, how does your relationship with your partner rate? Do you really discuss and finish conversations with each other so that you both feel heard and understood? Are you angry with your partner, with holding sex as a punishment and don't know how to resolve this?
If you want to learn to cook well you go and have lessons and you practice. If you want to have the most beautiful abundant garden in the neighborhood through your own effort you learn from books, you join a garden club and you try out new and different things. If you want the best relationship in the world with the most passionate and loving sex you.........Well what do you do?
Mostly what is learned about relationships comes from observing others, the media and if people are lucky, from good teachers at school setting the right example. Too often dysfunctional family relationships end in poor relationship skills. But this can be changed and new ways of doing things can be learned by making a conscious effort to educate us. Any personal development program whether at work or in your personal life is time well spent and the benefits far outweigh the time and effort needed to embrace them fully. Life coaches are just people who coach you on life. Select a good one you can trust and follow a program either on your own or with your partner. Find out in your area where there is a program for more information on sexual relationships. It is important to have factual and accurate information on sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy but far more important to have information on pleasure, commitment and responsibility in our sexual relationships too.
It is important to learn how your body responds to touch, to erotic thought processes, to seeing and hearing arousing images and sounds. Whether what you taste or smell is arousing too. All these factors influence the arousal process and it is no good getting into a relationship and expecting your partner to know. How can they possibly know if you don't know yourself? Of course part of the fun is experimenting and finding out, but many couples do not experiment and end up frustrated in more ways than one.
Betty Dodson the New Yorker who for the past 30 years and more has advocated good sex education for the best relationships, is still finding it an uphill struggle to convince people that their relationship will stand a better chance of survival if couples educate themselves in this way so that they are effectively able to communicate their needs.
Properly, professionally constructed sex education workshops are not mucky or pornographic and the students will come from all walks of life. Sitting next to each other may be sassy 30-somethings earning good money in top jobs, school dinner ladies in their 40's looking for some spice in their tired relationships, young first time mothers who want sex but are too tired to even think about it, singles newly on the dating scene or empty nesters in their 50's whose kids have just left to go to University who have turned round to look at their partner and said "who are you?" All these people have in common is a hunger to change the sex and relationships in their lives. Someone once said knowledge is power - knowledge is also confidence.
The confidence to get what we want out of our relationships, to ask for and get what we want is probably the most difficult to achieve. Sure we are great at designing the new kitchen, sorting where we are going on our holidays, buying the new car, but when it comes to saying "when you leave your dirty clothes all over the floor it makes me feel like a doormat!" Where are we?
Well, how does your relationship with your partner rate? Do you really discuss and finish conversations with each other so that you both feel heard and understood? Are you angry with your partner, with holding sex as a punishment and don't know how to resolve this?
If you want to learn to cook well you go and have lessons and you practice. If you want to have the most beautiful abundant garden in the neighborhood through your own effort you learn from books, you join a garden club and you try out new and different things. If you want the best relationship in the world with the most passionate and loving sex you.........Well what do you do?
Mostly what is learned about relationships comes from observing others, the media and if people are lucky, from good teachers at school setting the right example. Too often dysfunctional family relationships end in poor relationship skills. But this can be changed and new ways of doing things can be learned by making a conscious effort to educate us. Any personal development program whether at work or in your personal life is time well spent and the benefits far outweigh the time and effort needed to embrace them fully. Life coaches are just people who coach you on life. Select a good one you can trust and follow a program either on your own or with your partner. Find out in your area where there is a program for more information on sexual relationships. It is important to have factual and accurate information on sexually transmitted diseases and pregnancy but far more important to have information on pleasure, commitment and responsibility in our sexual relationships too.
It is important to learn how your body responds to touch, to erotic thought processes, to seeing and hearing arousing images and sounds. Whether what you taste or smell is arousing too. All these factors influence the arousal process and it is no good getting into a relationship and expecting your partner to know. How can they possibly know if you don't know yourself? Of course part of the fun is experimenting and finding out, but many couples do not experiment and end up frustrated in more ways than one.
Betty Dodson the New Yorker who for the past 30 years and more has advocated good sex education for the best relationships, is still finding it an uphill struggle to convince people that their relationship will stand a better chance of survival if couples educate themselves in this way so that they are effectively able to communicate their needs.
Friday 28 October 2011
FREE strip-shows
See FREE strip-shows and rate them for quality! Genuine ordinary (amateur) girls doing their best to please - on webcams!
See live nude strip shows on cam now!
See live nude strip shows on cam now!
Sunday 23 October 2011
Charming brunette teen peeing
Girl takes a pee near a canal and then takes off her clothes in a public street
Hot chick taking a pee in the woods
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